(NEW YORK) -- Most of us grew up being told we had to share with playmates, classmates and, of course, siblings. But now, some preschools are teaching kids that they shouldn’t share, saying that forcing one child to give up a toy gives the recipient a sense of entitlement.
Mommy blogger Beth Wankel’s son goes to a preschool where this no-sharing policy is in place, and she says it’s good for him.
“If one of the kids has a toy and someone else wants it we are not going to make them give it up until they are totally done,” she says. “If you ask them to give up a toy and you go and take it from them that’s no different than another kid taking it from them, which we would never allow.”
In practice, only when a child is done playing with something can another child take the toy. The child asking for the toy learns to wait. Developmentally that skill is called delayed gratification. It teaches a child that the world is not set up to automatically and immediately meet all of their needs.
In fact, many preschools that enact the policy, like the Barnard College Toddler Center in New York City, have replicas of the exact same toys to avoid sharing conflicts all togethe
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